I think everyone needs to step back from the hassle of everyday life and take a breather. Do what you have to do in order to take some stress out of your life–take deep breaths, do some yoga, meditate, pray–and you’ll feel better.
My kids stress me out more than I like to admit, so when I can, I slow down and take a breather. Usually, this comes in the form of crochet, knitting, playing a video game, or scrapbooking. Sometimes, just going to work helps. I have to drive 30-40 minutes one way, so that gives me plenty of time to clear my head. By the time I’m done with work and drive the 30-40 minutes home, I’m destressed and can enjoy life.
I’m working on a tedious thread piece right now, and it’s easy to get stressed out about little things. I’ve had to rip out several rounds, many over and over, before getting the stitches correct. It’s oddly soothing to be able to tear something apart when it’s not right. Too bad I can’t do that with the kids at times….alas, kids are more delicate than a thread crochet project and therefore need more delicate handling. This is where destressing comes into play. It allows me to deal with the kids in a more humane manor than what my emotions might do if left unchecked.
I enjoy playing mildly to moderately violent video games with my hubby in the evenings. We get to visit and chat, but I also get to let out my frustrations on computer software instead of on the kids. Again, I’m destressed and ready to handle the kids the way they need handling. I can also sleep better because I’m not pissed off about some little thing one or more of the kidlets had done that day.
I tell you, some days, it just doesn’t pay to get out of bed and deal with the kids. Others, I can do almost anything with them and not get upset. What gets me is they know what we expect of them and still continue to do contrarywise. Sometimes, I think they misbehave intentionally.
Please, tell me I’m crazy and force me into surgery if I ever say that I want more kids! Four is enough, and I’m afraid I’m going to pull my hair out if I let it grow long enough to get a good grip on it. Seriously…I don’t need more kids and I think sometimes I should have stopped after the first one as he causes more problems than the other three put together.
Hey, guess what? I’m destressed and ready to face the kids again!
Blogging helps at times, but be careful what you blog about….there are trolls from certain sites that do nothing but stalk blogs for “hate” posts….